Mother’s Day is a special day to celebrate the love and sacrifice of all the amazing mothers out there. As a mother, you go through different stages of your child’s life, each with its own unique challenges and rewards. Whether you are a new mom or a seasoned one, every stage of motherhood is special in its own way. In this blog post, we will take a closer look at motherhood at different stages of your child’s life and respectfully consider why Mother’s Day is a challenge for many.
New Moms
The early stages of motherhood are both exciting and challenging. You have just welcomed a new life into the world, and everything is a learning experience. New moms are often exhausted, overwhelmed, and may feel like they are losing their sense of self. Understandably so, I remember this stage well. However, the love and joy that comes with holding your little ones, the coos, the smell, and the first smile make it all worth it!
As a new mom, Mother’s Day is a day to celebrate your strength and resilience. It’s an opportunity to take a break and acknowledge all that you have accomplished. Take some time for yourself and indulge in some self-care activities. Whether it’s a bubble bath or a cup of tea, do something that makes you feel relaxed and rejuvenated. Careful not to feel the inherent obligation to celebrate others and their Mom’s day and overshadow your own. ❤️
Toddler Moms
Ready for the race?! Toddlerhood is a time of exploration, growth, and endless energy. As a toddler mom, you are constantly on the go, chasing after your little one and trying to keep up with their never-ending curiosity. This stage can be both rewarding and challenging as your child begins to assert their independence.
As a toddler mom, Mother’s Day is a chance to slow down and enjoy some quality time with your little one. Whether it’s a simple picnic in the park or a trip to the zoo, consider spending the day doing something that your child loves. Remember to take lots of pictures and enjoy the moments that make this super cute and personalty filled time so special. Careful not to over-prioritize the plan or strive for perfection during this day. Just go with the flow and let it unfold in front of you . ❤️
Moms of School-age
As your child enters school age, they become more independent and begin to develop their own interests and hobbies. This stage can be bittersweet for moms as they watch their child grow up and become more self-sufficient. However, it’s also a time to celebrate your child’s accomplishments and milestones.
As a school-age mom, Mother’s Day is a time to reflect on your child’s growth and achievements (you’re doing a great job!) Take a moment to celebrate their successes, whether it’s a good report card or a great performance in a school play. This is a great time to do a performance review and reward yourself! This is also a great time to create new traditions with your child that you can continue to enjoy as they grow older ( we ALWAYS go to the zoom for Mothers Day, or breakfast in bed, or travel, etc.). Careful not to forget to communicate how important this day and this time is to your child. They need your communication at this point, and they can understand it all!
Moms of Teenagers
The teenage years can be challenging for both moms and their children. As a teenage mom, you may find yourself struggling to balance your child’s need for independence with your desire to keep them safe. They are fragile, and so are you! It’s important to remember that your child is going through a lot of changes and may need your guidance and support more than ever.
As a teenage mom, Mother’s Day is a time to show your child how much you love and appreciate them while celebrating your work and progress, together. Plan a special day together, whether it’s a spa day or a trip to the beach. This is also a good time to have an open and honest conversation with your child about their hopes, dreams, and fears. Careful not to carry the weight of your child’s process on your shoulders. Careful not to take their choices and challenges as a reflection of your commitment and job well done.
Empty Nest Moms
The empty nest stage of motherhood can be emotional for moms as they adjust to life without their children at home. It is time to reimagine your day-to-day life! Find your value outside of your value as a daily on-duty Mom. This stage can also be a time of self-discovery as moms rediscover their passions and interests.
As an empty nest mom, Mother’s Day is a time to celebrate the relationships that you have built with your children. Plan a special activity with your child, whether it’s a trip or a simple phone call. Make time to celebrate YOURSELF and give them an opportunity to celebrate you properly. Permission to step outside of the box and celebrate your fruits the best way YOU see fit. This is a time to celebrate the unique bond that you have with your child and the love that will always be there. Careful not miss the opportunity to make the time to FIND YOURSELF and CELEBRATE this phase of your life. You will always be their Mom ❤️
Like a Mom Figures
In addition to celebrating biological and adoptive mothers, Mother’s Day is also a time to honor all the women who have played a motherly role in someone’s life. These women can include stepmothers, grandmothers, aunts, godmothers, mentors, and other female role models.
These women have shown unconditional love, support, and guidance and have made a significant impact on the lives of those they care for. Whether they have provided a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, or a source of wisdom and advice, these women have earned a special place in the hearts of those they have helped raise.
On this Mother’s Day, let’s take a moment to appreciate all the wonderful women who have been like a mom to us and thank them for their love and dedication. They may not be our biological mothers, but they are just as important in shaping who we are today. If you are one of those who have that type of impact on peoples lives, careful not to undervalue yourself and your impact ❤️
Bereaved Mom/Vilomah
Mothers who have lost children experience a pain and grief that is difficult to describe. Mother’s Day can be an especially challenging time for them, as they may feel a sense of emptiness and loss that is amplified by the celebrations around them.
If you know a mother who has lost a child, it’s important to offer your support and understanding. Acknowledge their loss and let them know that you are there for them. You can also offer to spend time with them on Mother’s Day or plan an activity that honors the memory of their child. Careful not to avoid the topic of their child or suffering in an effort to help them manage the pain. They don’t want the memory to be erased. Ask them how much or how little and follow their lead ❤️
For mothers who have lost a child, Mother’s Day can be an opportunity to remember and celebrate the life of their beloved child. They may choose to light a candle, make a donation to a charity in their child’s name, or simply spend time looking through old photos and memories. It’s important to give these mothers space to grieve and remember their child in a way that feels meaningful to them.
If you are a mother who has lost a child, know that you are not alone. Take time to care for yourself and prioritize your emotional well-being. Seek support from loved ones, a therapist, or a support group for parents who have experienced loss. Remember that the love and bond between a mother and child transcend life and death and that your child’s memory will always be a part of you ❤️
Heart Break of losing your Mom
Mother’s Day can also be a difficult time for those who have lost their mothers. If your mother has passed away, it’s okay to feel sad, miss her, and even grieve on this day. You may feel like you’re the only one who doesn’t have a mother to celebrate with, but you are not alone.
It’s important to give yourself permission to feel the emotions that come with missing your mom. Take some time to reflect on the happy memories you shared together and honor her memory in a way that feels right for you. This could be by visiting her favorite spot or doing an activity that you used to enjoy together.
Remember, it’s okay to take a step back and prioritize your emotional well-being on this day. Lean on your support system, whether it’s friends, family, or a therapist. Surround yourself with love and take comfort in knowing that your mother’s love will always be with you. While you are respecting your emotional space, make sure you are not missing out on your own celebration and allow your own children to honor and love on you ❤️❤️
In conclusion, dear mothers and mother figures, Mother’s Day is a remarkable occasion that encompasses the diverse and incredible journey of motherhood. From the sleepless nights of newborns to the whirlwind of toddlerhood, from the proud moments of school-age milestones to the rollercoaster ride of teenage years, and even through the bittersweet transition to the empty nest phase—each stage carries its own joys, challenges, and unforgettable memories.
To all the mothers out there, including those who have taken on the role of a mom to others, your unwavering love, strength, and sacrifice do not go unnoticed. You are the superheroes, the heartbeats, and the guiding lights in the lives of your children. Embrace this special day as a reminder of your incredible power and the immeasurable impact you have on those around you.
To those who may be missing their moms or have experienced the heart-wrenching loss of a child, know that it is okay to grieve and honor those precious connections. Take solace in the cherished memories, find comfort in the love that still lingers, and give yourself permission to navigate the waves of emotions that come with such profound loss. You are not alone, and your strength and resilience are truly remarkable.
As we celebrate Mother’s Day, let us extend our support and compassion to all mothers, recognizing the multifaceted nature of their experiences. To the new moms finding their way, the seasoned moms navigating uncharted territories, and everyone in between—keep shining your light, embracing the messy and magical moments, and always remember that you are doing an amazing job.
So, dear mothers, continue to be the fierce, loving, and remarkable beings that you are. Celebrate yourselves, uplift one another, and treasure the incredible journey of motherhood with all its triumphs, tears, and laughter. Happy Mother’s Day to each and every one of you. You are an inspiration, and the world is a brighter place because of you.
Happy Mother’s Day,
Sherry Swift
